For the last couple of years, I’ve forgone New Year’s resolutions in favor of the “one word” concept. Last year’s word was “stability,” and, as I wrote in my 2017 wrap-up post, I feel like I made some progress with stability in my life last year. Over the last few weeks, as I looked ahead to 2018, choosing my one word was easy, as it’s something I’ve been lacking in the last year and a half since we moved back to the Front Range.
My one word for 2018, then, is “Connect.” Making new friends and deeper-than-work connections has been tough for me. I know this isn’t just a “me” issue — articles like this one and this one have popped up several time on sites I follow — and I know there isn’t an overnight solution, but that connection piece is missing in my life right now, and this year, I want to remedy that.
I also want to work on retaining and strengthening my existing relationships. Too often, I’ve gone without talking to my friends and family because I’m “so busy,” and I want to prioritize the people I care about.
As an introvert, I know that meeting this goal might be hard at times. It will mean saying “yes” to invites that I’d normally turn down because I won’t know anyone, or they’re for a weeknight, or whatever. It will mean extending invitations that might get turned down, and it will mean putting myself in situations outside my comfort zone. But the rewards (I hope) will be worth it.
What’s your New Year’s Resolution/goal(s)/word?
Any tips for making friends as a thirty-something without kids?
3 thoughts on “One Word for 2018: Connect”
I am also a 30 something with no kids and it IS hard to make friends. I guess I would prefer to just strengthen the relationships with my current friends but it seems like everyone is just so BUSY and when they are not busy they want to sit around in their pjs. And I am EXTREMELY guilty of that as well!
I would say join some sort of group where you can make friends that have the same interests as you. I just auditioned for a musical and got in, so hopefully I will make a lot of new friends in the cast!
Yeah, the stay-in-my-pjs thing is definitely a contributor. Usually by the weekend (when I could actually do something), I just want to crash.